Today's blog is about setting B O U N D A R I E S.
Is it difficult for you to tell someone no when they ask something of you that you'd rather not do?
Do you find yourself being resentful when you say yes when you meant no?
Do you avoid certain people because every time you turn around they are putting you on the spot to do something for them?
Does it seem as though you're the only one in your family who is willing to do what's necessary for your loved one, young or old?
I had to learn how to understand my limitations and to create boundaries so that I didn't take on too much. It took me a while to grasp the importance of this concept. This is critical to keeping a healthy balance between taking care of yourself and caring for another.
If you have siblings or relatives in the city, it would seem that someone might step up to help. If you're an only child, then it may be an extended family member. There is no way that one person can do all that needs to be done, especially if someone is living with a chronic illness and/or it's terminal.
Be kind to yourself. There is no shame in admitting you can't do it all. If there is no family member willing or able to help, then ask your local church or temple, community or friend if they know of a volunteer in the neighborhood who can help once a week or twice a week or every other week. Find a way to get relief so that you can maintain your peace of mind. For peace of mind is critical to your well-being when dealing with the pressures that come with caring for another.
Don't delay. Your health is so important!
Best Wishes,
Carole Brecht
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For I am not super woman born with a S upon my chest, walking around with that profect smile but really knowing it is a frown. No one know from the start the tool of a real woman, or to be a mother's from the start that's why we are lefted with bound and breaken hearts
ReplyDeleteI understand what you wrote. I also hope that you have more sunny days than cloudy. Life is so riddled with problems, illness and circumstances out of our control. All we can do is put our best foot forward and hopefully that brings peace of mind. Best Wishes, Carole Brecht
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