Wednesday, January 27, 2016

~ Coming Full Circle ~



I have been thinking about what life has been like after coming out of the devastating loss of a loved one. Feeling a sense of being grounded, connected, strong and stable comes in time after such a loss and it's a work in progress, reorganizing your life. 

We make adjustments, go through transitions, tweak our lifestyle to find a new way of living. We begin a new season of life. I think mid-life crisis is an understatement in today's world.

Please follow us on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. Come visit our online store: Tangled Art Boutique, Zentangle Inspired Art. We aspire to inspire on social media. We hope you find peace and joy.

The Caregiver Gallery of gifts can be used for individuals as well as fundraisers, special events, contests, employee incentives, rewards or a special thank you or for recognition and appreciation. A great way to affirm your favorite Caregiver(s) with something personal for her/him/them.

www.tangledartboutique.com 

If you have people in your life who would appreciate our Caregiver greeting cards & giftlines to celebrate and affirm Caregivers, please have them contact me by email: cbrecht4@gmail.com 

Best wishes,
Carole Brecht

~The Sandwich Woman, The Heart of the Sandwich Generation~

~Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~


Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Facebook: bit.ly/SanGenFB

Tangled Art Boutique: bit.ly/TABoutique

Copyright 2016

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

-----> A Caregiver's Creative Outlet <-------



As I continue my journey creating Zentangle Inspired Art, I was thinking of what life was like before I discovered this art form and how much it has changed my life.

I discovered this in June 2014, at the tail end of my Caregiver days with Mom. I spent years caring for her and had no creative outlet in place during that time. Mom was only a few months out from her death when this new interest/hobby/art form came into my life. 

All those years I was so engrossed in her care, managing so much, I never stopped to think about how to help myself. I wasn't plugged into a community like this. I had become withdrawn, I experienced a strong sense of feeling alone and I was full of sorrow witnessing the changes that were occurring with her extreme memory loss and personality changes. It never dawned on me to think about art or anything at all to help myself find peace of mind and to help me deal with the level of stress I was living with. I was too busy doing the job of Caregiving to stop and think about myself.

Once I found Zentangle, I threw myself into this art form and took to it like a bee to honey! I couldn't get enough. It made me happy, made me feel at peace, it was something Jan and I learned together, so we had a blast tangling together (and still do). So many positive things came out of moving forward this way internally and externally. This is something I can do anytime of day or night, by myself. It's easy to carry around and pick it up and down all day long if I want. It brought a perspective to my life that was missing. That despite the horrible things that are happening around us to people we love, there is still beauty to see and behold

I encourage you to find a creative outlet. It could be anything. It could something as simple as going to Michael's and picking out a stencil to create imagery or a wreath to create for the Spring or a wooden shape to paint and hang. You can keep it for yourself or you can create it for someone else. The possibilities are endless. And even if you don't feel like doing a thing, I say ignore that feeling, don't let it rule you. Step out of your comfort zone and find something that gets your creative flow going and puts a smile on your face, even if you don't feel creative. 

I hope you have a fun time, beginning to end. And when you finish one project, go get another to work on... even a sketch pad will do. Or take a class or get a do-it-yourself book or do oragami or paper quilling... whatever floats your boat. And if you have no idea, get a book from the library or go on Google and start searching for one idea to run with. Once you take the first step, everything else will follow.

Jan created the tangle I used in this blog. It's placed four different ways. A reminder to me: however I am viewing life, that is my view and I can change it any time and see something I didn't originally see. We have the capacity to look at an object or a scenario and have free will to interpret life any way we "feel" like it. Either our feelings are ruling our life or our voice of reason is in control. We can take our pick on how things will move along in our life, just from our thoughts and perception. It's a pretty amazing life when you think of it that way. Yes, we have circumstances beyond our control in life, but our perceptions will determine how we carry ourself, how we behave around others and how we do our job. 

Self-care is paramount to your doing a good job during your Caregiver hours. You matter and make a difference in someone's life. Go make a difference in your own life, just for you, just because. You deserve peace and harmony in your life, no matter the circumstances. 

Best Wishes,
Carole Brecht

~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~


Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Facebook: bit.ly/SanGenFB

Tangled Art Boutique: bit.ly/TABoutique

Copyright 2016

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

~A New Beginning~


2016 is here!

I'm trying to wrap my head around that we're in a new year and well into the 21st century! A reminder how fast time flies.

There's something fresh about a new year. New dreams, new horizons and aspirations when the clean slate appears on January 1 of every year. We want to feel that each day is well lived, that we have purpose and that we're productive. 

If you're caring for another, I hope you remember how important it is to keep your voice of reason intact, to put your best foot forward and to be glad you won't look back with any regret because you are the one who stepped up to the plate. You are responsible and caring, one who made a difference in your loved one's life. 

Keep your calendar and notebook nearby daily, stay organized, make your daily list and, most importantly, be sure you're at the top of the list to take care of yourself. 

Jan and I have created this social media platform with Facebook, Twitter & Instagram that has been gaining momentum globally. We're happy to see that The Sandwich Woman Community is a place for The Sandwich Generation to come together.

We also created an online store called Tangled Art Boutique bit.ly/TABoutique
In the store there are over 130 Zentangle Inspired Art designs we created. Each of us has our own gallery of designs and there is a Caregiver gallery too. The Caregiver line of designs is one way we love to support Caregivers with our art by affirming them with words in beautiful tangled designs. We'd like to share our store link with assisted living facilities, hospitals, doctor's offices, independent living facilities, hospice organizations and/or any business or person that has Caregivers, be it family or professional Caregivers, that are part of their lives. The Caregiver Gallery of gifts can be used for individuals as well as fundraisers, special events, contests, employee incentives, rewards or a special thank you or just merely for recognition and appreciation. 

If you have people in your life who would appreciate our Caregiver greeting cards & giftlines to celebrate and affirm Caregivers, please have them contact me by email: cbrecht4@gmail.com 

Best wishes for a life well-lived in 2016!
Carole Brecht

~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~


Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Facebook: bit.ly/SanGenFB

Tangled Art Boutique: bit.ly/TABoutique

Copyright 2016

Sunday, January 3, 2016

~Caregiver Love In 2016~


We are happy and humbled to learn we recently logged over 3,000 Likes on The Sandwich Woman facebook page. This is a Global Community of hard working men and women who take care of their loved ones. Thank you for showing up and embracing this community as your own. We lift you up and praise you for doing a great job and doing what needs to be done. Happy New Year 2016 to You! 

bit.ly/SanGenFB 



We love Caregivers & we love supporting you. We look forward to a new year full of hopes, joyful moments and a peaceful, calm and fulfilling journey for all. We are here for you and wishing you much success in 2016!

Best Wishes,
Carole Brecht


~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~


Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Facebook: bit.ly/SanGenFB

Tangled Art Boutique: bit.ly/TABoutique

Copyright 2016

Wednesday, December 23, 2015

~Happy Holidays & Happy New Year From The Sandwich Woman~


It's full steam ahead this week to finalize all of our plans and get our ducks in a row for the holidays, if that's even possible!

2015 has been quite the year for acceptance and adjustments in my life. Midlife is certainly not for sissies! Anyone who is involved in being a Caregiver for another is our hero. We admire and respect you so much. Carve out a little time for yourself between now and the end of the year - guilt-free - and do something you've put off doing all year long, even if it's cleaning out your closet.  :-)


Jan and I are looking forward to 2016 with bright eyes and a renewed spirit to serve  you the best way we know how. We wish for you to have a warm, peaceful and joyous holiday season and a very Happy New Year!


"The Fruit of the Spirit" by Carole Brecht





See you in 2016, Cheers!
Carole Brecht


~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~


Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Facebook: bit.ly/SanGenFB

Tangled Art Boutique: bit.ly/TABoutique

Copyright 2015

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Cheers!



With all of the holiday hubbub during the month of December, I hope you're able to maintain your peace of mind. This time of year can be a lot of pressure for some and for others a reminder of family and friends who are no longer with us. For some it can be a time of stress and grief. There are people of all ages who may be living alone or may not have family or friends to celebrate with. Don't put any undue pressure on yourself when it comes to gift buying or giving. Embrace joy wherever you can find it. Shine your light wherever you go...

May peace be with you and may you have a beautiful holiday season. Cheers!

Best Wishes, 
Carole Brecht



~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~



Twitter: bit.ly/SanGenTW

Instagram: bit.ly/SanGenIG

Copyright 2015



Wednesday, November 18, 2015

**Tune In Live**


Welcome to this week's blog. I'm Carole Brecht on the left. I'm the writer for this blog. My sister and partner, Jan Steinle, is on the right. Both of us showcase our Zentangle Inspired Art here, and on all our social media. We recently launched our online store - (click) Tangled Art Boutique - housing over 100 images of our Zentangle designs, including a Caregiver greeting card and giftline. 

We hope you find these interviews worthy and enlightening, as we share who we are and what our mission is as founders of The Sandwich Woman Community. 





On Saturday, October 3, 2015, Jan and I were interviewed by Dr John Stanko on his 
(click) "Wake Up To Purpose Radio Show."

Our close association with Dr. John was formed in his (click) Purpose Quest classroom as we searched to discover, clarify, and embrace what we were meant to do in life.  Out of our experience as Mom's Caregiver for several years, and after attending Dr. John’s workshops throughout 2014, we found ourselves creating The Sandwich Woman Community.  We wanted to connect with and support those just like us who were going through the Caregiving journey. During that time we discovered the  Zentangle® art form and fell in love with it. 

We include our Zentangle Inspired Art on all of our social media. Both Jan and I feel it is apropos to The Sandwich Generation…intricate, layered, complex and beautiful.

Click here to listen - a lighthearted, fun and funny interview with one of our favorite associates, our friend, mentor, advisor and soon to be Publisher of my book and our combined book in the near future.  


Jan and I made this "sister tangle". She designed it and I colored it in. A fun project to work on together. 

(click) eCare Diary invited us on their radio show on Tuesday, October 6, 2015 to discuss our view on (click) "Sandwich Generation Caregiving." This interview begins with our Mom's diagnosis of Alzheimer's Disease and the ensuing struggle to find support and resources as Caregivers over the years during her care. 



On Monday, September 14, 2015 we were hosted by eCare Diary for this video interview called (click)"Sandwich Generation Caregiving." This was our first interview and experience to state who we are and what our view is on being a Sandwich Generation Caregiver. 

Thank you for taking the time to learn about us and to listen to our viewpoint of what it's been like for us as Caregivers for our parents and how we see the Caregiver industry evolving. 

Best Wishes, 
Carole Brecht & Jan Steinle

~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~



Copyright 2015

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

~Honoring The Family Caregiver~

Introducing my special guest blogger today, Author of Somebody Stole My Iron: Vicki Tapia~



An Unsung Hero…The Family Caregiver


According to Alzheimer’s Association’s 2015 Facts and Figures, 85 % of unpaid Caregiving help provided to older adults in the U.S. is provided by family members; 2/3 of them women. And, over half of us caring for people with dementia are taking care of parents.

How many of us actually plan on being an unpaid Caregiver? Whether it’s a spouse, parents or a well-loved aunt, it’s unlikely most of us ever anticipate the reality of wearing the label “caregiver.” As the boomer population continues to age, the number of unsung heroes caring for a family member is on the upswing. According to the report *Caregiving in the U.S. 2015, there are currently an estimated 34.2 million American adults taking care of a loved one 50 years or older.

Caregiving can be overwhelming, both emotionally and physically, bringing with it a myriad of emotions, all of which I experienced at one time or another, including:
  • ·      Frustration
  • ·      Helplessness  
  • ·      Anger
  • ·      Sadness
  • ·      Depression
  • ·      Guilt
Caregiving can be lonely! At times, I remember feeling like I was on a deserted island, with nary a person who really understood what it was like.

While speaking at a Caregiver’s meeting recently, two women approached me afterwards to share their stories. One woman told me her spouse with Alzheimer’s is slowly becoming more than she can handle, but her children are insisting that she keep him at home. The other woman suspects that her elderly father, who lives next door to her, is showing signs of dementia, but he flatly refuses to go to the doctor. They were both searching for answers. Like growing old, Caregiving is not for sissies.

I sensed in these 2 women what experts label Caregiver burnout, a very real phenomenon and a number one reason why it’s imperative for all caregivers to recognize the importance of self-care.

If you or someone you know is experiencing these symptoms, I encourage you, please make time for a doctor’s visit.
  • ·      Anxiety
  • ·      Irritability
  • ·      Social withdrawal
  • ·      Sleeplessness
  • ·      Exhaustion
  • ·      Poor concentration
  • ·      More susceptible to illness
*Caregiving in the U.S. 2015 – A Focused Look at Caregivers of Adults Age 50+ was published by The National Alliance for Caregiving (NAC) and the AARP Public Policy Institute

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I'm a long-time lactation consultant and published author of numerous lactation articles and found my energies redirected to the other end of life when both my parents were diagnosed with dementia in 2004. My diary documenting my parents journey resulted in the publication of Somebody Stole My Iron: A Family Memoir of Dementia, a 2015 finalist for the High Plains Book Awards. 

In my memoir, I detail the daily challenges, turbulent emotions, and painful decisions involved in caring for my parents. Laced with humor and pathos, reviewers describe my book as “brave,” “honest,” “raw,” “unvarnished,” as well as a “must-read for every Alzheimer's/dementia patient's family.” I wrote this story to offer hope to others, to reassure them that they’re not alone.

  

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Thank you Vicki for sharing you insight and perspective and for being today's guest blogger.

Best Wishes,

Carole Brecht

~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~





Wednesday, November 4, 2015

~ A Caregiver's Helper ~


~Introducing my special guest blogger today: Marianne Sciucco~

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~ 12 Ways to Reach Out to Caregivers During National

Caregivers Appreciation Month ~


by Marianne Sciucco, author of Blue Hydrangeas, an Alzheimer’s love story




Chances are you know someone caring for an ill or disabled loved one. This could be due to an illness such as Alzheimer's, Parkinson's, Cancer, Stroke or a variety of other conditions. Some provide live-in care, others visit daily or weekly, and some oversee care from a distance or care provided by hired aides or a nursing facility.

No matter how the Caregiver performs his or her role, caregiving is a tough job, requiring resources that are often scarce: time, money, support, and assistance.

The CDC tells us that more than 34 million unpaid caregivers provide care to someone age 18 and older who is ill or has a disability, and an estimated 21 percent of US households are impacted by Caregiver responsibilities.

Almost all of this work is unpaid, typically provided by family members, and often performed around the clock with no breaks. In addition, many Caregivers juggle other responsibilities such as jobs, raising children, and managing their own households.

November is National Caregivers Appreciation Month, and a great time to reach out to those providing care and help lighten their load.

In recognition of those who work tirelessly and selflessly to care for a loved one, here are 12 ways to reach out to caregivers, to offer assistance and let them know you care. These people need support, and often that support doesn't cost much, if anything, and takes little time.

1.     Ask if you can sit for them a little while so they can run errands, take a break, see the doctor, or attend church or a caregiver's support group, whatever they need to do to take care of themselves.

2.     Going to the grocery store? Call and ask if there's anything you can pick up for them.

3.     If your employer allows, donate paid sick time, vacation days, or personal time to a coworker caring for a relative who is hospitalized or needs post-hospital care.

4.     Volunteer to mow the lawn, weed the garden, rake the leaves, or shovel the snow.

5.     Share the bounty, whether from your vegetable or your flower garden. Fresh produce and fresh flowers are cheerful.

6.     If you have the skills and tools, offer to change the oil in their car and rotate the tires.

7.     Again, if you have the skills and tools, offer a free haircut to the caregiver and/or their loved one.

8.     Walk their dog.

9.     Ask if they'd like you to wash and clean out their car.

10.  Volunteer to take out the trash and bring the barrels out to the curb on trash day.

11.  Double cook a meal, preferably one of their favorites, and send over a dinner.

12.  Include them in your prayers.

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For more information about caregiving and Caregivers please follow #AlzAuthors during 

National Caregivers Appreciation Month, November 2015, or find us on Facebook.

About the Author




I'm not a nurse who writes but a writer who happens to be a nurse. A lover of words and books, I dreamed of becoming an author when I grew up but became a nurse to avoid poverty. I later brought my two passions together and write about the intricate lives of people struggling with health and family issues. I grew up near Boston and earned my Bachelor's degree in English at the University of Massachusetts at Boston. I spend a lot of time on Cape Cod. When not writing I work as a campus nurse at a community college in New York’s Hudson Valley, where I live with my patient and reliable husband and beautiful, brainy daughter. We are ruled by Mr. Chance, a cat we rescued who believes he rescued us. I'm currently working on a YA novel, "Swim Season," about the new girl on the team who challenges a longstanding school record, to be released in 2016. A dedicated Swim Mom for ten years, you can find me during swim season at one of many Skyline Conference swim meets cheering for my daughter and her team.

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Thank you Marianne for sharing you insight and perspective and for being today's guest blogger.

Best Wishes,

Carole Brecht

~The Sandwich Woman, Caring For The Sandwich Generation~

~Your Caregiver Support Network: Where Words Soothe and Ideas & Art Delight~